This is a time of year that can be particularly taxing both emotionally and physically. December marks the end of a 12-month marathon dealing with the pandemic, hybrid work, kids going to school and studying remotely, figuring out how to socialize again while navigating the next wave of the COVID-19 variant, and deciding whether to get the flu shot and a booster too. Gosh, it seems like a complex jumble of VUCA. Let’s then throw in some Christmas shopping and finding deals that aren’t really deals and being expected to feel lucky if you get your order in on time especially if it doesn’t involve any type of semiconductor microchip.
All of this to say, it is a time when you might need to ask for some help.
I know I’m in that boat and am deeply grateful for the help and support I’m receiving. My business has doubled this year and with the pressure of grad school, I’ve needed to reassess where and how I’m spending my time and energy. Luckily, I’ve had help with this newsletter and will have more in the new year. Award-winning psychologist, Dr. Anneke Olthof, is a contributing author and consultant. You’ll see her first post for the Authentika blog in January 2022. This month, my daughter, Maddie, has contributed an article that is timely and relevant for leaders and influencers alike.
Asking for help isn’t always easy. I still struggle with doing so but am slowly chipping away at this goal of behaviour change or as we say in psychology – cognitive and behavioural modification.
Asking for help is a perfect example of one of my go-to statements
Simple doesn’t mean easy.
Don’t let yourself drown in a situation that could be solved with a request for help. You’re not in this alone and yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus, and it does take a village.
Give this process of asking for help a try by piloting it with someone close to you that you truly trust and respect. Start small with one tiny request and see how it feels.
Need a little more encouragement? Please watch this TED Talk by Social Psychologist, Heidi Grant called How to Ask for Help and Get a Yes.
When you feel ready, ensure you’re open to saying yes to helping others and being in a place of service.
There is a time and season for all of this. Right now, your season might be needing support and that is just where you need to be. Only by asking will you find out if the answer is yes and a door of support is waiting for you to walk through.